Freedom to Read by Irene Latham
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For a while our
family (me, hubby, and three sons) used a box of questions to help
guide our Family Supper conversation. Here's one I will never forget:
Which is more
important: health, freedom, money or love?
We discussed them
all – how poor health limits your freedom, how money gives you
freedom, how love IS freedom. Ultimately, though, what we decided was
that none of them were worth much without freedom.... which makes
freedom the answer for us.
These days, whenever
I do a gratitude list, freedom is always on the list. I feel so
fortunate to have been born in a country that celebrates freedom, and
to parents who believe giving kids the gift of freedom is one of the
best ways to nurture them to adulthood.
While I have many
stories of how being given the freedom to roam and explore led to a
satisfying, imaginative childhood, the memory I'd like to share today
comes from the summer I was fourteen.
I had $25 in babysitting money,
and when I went across the street to the neighbor's yard sale, I
spent it all on a giant box of romance novels. I lugged the box home
and proceeded to read every single one of those steamy-covered
Cinderella-trope books.
My parents never intervened, never said no,
you're not old enough. And while I *might* have read some things I
wasn't ready for, it was freedom with a capital F. I learned more
from THAT than any of the words inside those covers.
I'm so grateful!
Great Post Irene. Freedom IS the answer.
ReplyDeleteYes! Thanks for reading, Darlene. xo
DeleteIn fifth grade my friends and I raced through books by Judy Blume, Norma Fox Mazer, and Cynthia Voigt -- plus the Flowers in the Attic series. My parents never intervened, and I agree that was the greatest lesson. When you respect a child's freedom to read, you're telling them you respect them.
ReplyDeleteYes to respect, Megan! Age is such a ridiculous measure anyway. Varies so greatly from person to person... and in my experience you get out of a book exactly what you're ready for.
DeleteSing it sista! Freedom is the answer. (and thanks for giving me a great idea for dinner conversation)
ReplyDeleteSinging with you, Tracy. :) We still break out the question box from time to time... and it's definitely part of our family culture.
DeleteI had the same experience growing up as Megan did...That really is true--it's a powerful thing being given respect when you're a child...
ReplyDeleteSo glad this was your experience, Holly! Thanks for sharing. xo
DeleteIrene, I had the same experience with books. My mom never censored any of my choices--and I found great freedom in choosing and reading books. It opens up a whole world!
ReplyDeleteExactly. I'd already chosen FREEDOM - before I read the rest of your dinner table convo. :-)
ReplyDeleteI love your story! I had that kind of freedom, too, and have to remember the wonder and joy of that for my own daughter. :-)
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