When people reflect on their lives, they often say: “If I could, I’d do that differently.”
Of course we should learn from our mistakes. But the danger comes from getting lost in regret, from not honoring the process of becoming who we are. Regrets are the wispy strands we sweep over our bald spots to catalogue the blunders in our lives. If you’ve seen a comb over, you know that doesn’t work very well. Why? Because our bare and vulnerable spots are part of what makes us who we are. Without the blunders of our past, we would not have become who we are today. We’re much more than the sum of our brilliance and blunders. Take one thing away and who knows whether our lives would be better or worse, whether the person we have become would be better or worse.
So hold all of your past—both the blunders and the brilliance—with kindness for the person you were, and gratitude for the person you've become.