9 REASONS TO SAY GOODBYE TO YOUR WRITING CRITIQUE GROUP
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Writing critique groups are one form of community, and they can feed the creative spirit and help improve skills. But every now and then these groups sour. It's no one's fault -- it's just part of growth. And like any other relationship that once was good but now isn't, leaving can be stressful and painful. Yet it must be done.
Here are some indicators that it's time to protect your creative life and walk away:
1. You can predict the responses of the members - and sometimes you are thinking of their responses when you are writing.
2. You've become something like a dysfunctional family, with resentments and alliances and unhealthy competitiveness.
3. Everyone's work begins to sound the same.
4. The workshop has become a substitute for publication -- the group has become your sole readership.
5. You don't actually take anyone's advice when you sit down to revise, or you don't revise at all.
6. You lose confidence in your work after hearing the group's opinions.
7. You are reluctant to share your tender new idea for fear of the group's response.
8. You grow impatient with other members for not taking your advice.
9. You attend out of habit or obligation rather than passion.
And finally, this, from Twyla Tharp's THE COLLABORATIVE HABIT: LIFE LESSONS FOR WORKING TOGETHER:
“I can't emphasize this idea enough.
Getting involved
with your collaborator's problems
almost always
distracts you from your own. That can be tempting.
That can be a relief. But it usually leads to disaster.”
Lesson Learned! (A friend sent me this post after I 'complained' about a specific group I belonged to!)
ReplyDeleteSo true...I'm finally learning how to eliminate "negative noise" from my own life (an early New Year's Resolution).
ReplyDeleteI love this list. Love it.
ReplyDeleteThis list is wonderful. Some groups can be like an episode of "Survivor", can't they? :)
ReplyDeleteHaving been in several groups, I can relate to this. On the other hand, when it's good, it's very very good.
ReplyDeleteThis is a good list. For my own part, I belong to two very good groups who all write in a different style and are really good writers and critiquers. I feel very lucky to have connected with them, because I can see the improvement in my own work after revisions.
ReplyDeleteHow we all come into a place not knowing what to expect of each other is exciting. Whether it
ReplyDeletewill be a good experience or not, it all depends from the very first meeting. Will it be a short or long journey or no journey at all? It won't hurt trying. Let's all find our destinies. Most important is, we did one of the many steps to get published- join critique groups. Good luck everybody.